In What Matters Most, Chanel Reynolds, founder of Get Your Shit Together and co-founder of GYST.com, wants to tell you everything you need to know to prepare for when life goes sideways. And what to do afterwards.
What Matters Most: The Get Your Shit Together Guide to Wills, Money, Insurance, and Life’s ‘What-ifs’ draws on Chanel’s very intimate personal experience of losing her husband and everything she learned in the process to put her life back together again. The book blends personal narrative with hard-earned advice and acts as your personal guide to give you real-life, no-B.S. information on the things we all struggle with.
- Creating legal documents like a will and living will
- Updating (or finally getting) a life insurance policy
- Keeping track of online accounts and passwords
- Starting or growing an emergency fund
- Keeping secure, up-to-date records of personal information
What Matters Most is the approachable, no-nonsense handbook I needed and didn’t have and offers what can help many of us live a life with less worry and provide some answers to all the “what ifs.”
Praise for What Matters Most:
“How strange to have been so conscious about money in life but lax about where it all goes when I die. I’ve bought my green burial plot, picked who will bury me, but had I written my will? Well yes, many times, but never completed any of them. That stopped the day I read Chanel’s book. How free I feel to have these tasks done.” – Vicki Robin, New York Times bestselling author of Your Money or Your Life
“There’s little point in worrying about a future death, but simple acts of planning can relieve your worries, protect and prepare you for what lies ahead, and give you a calmer and more peaceful today. These preparations are not only pragmatic acts, but sacred gifts to our future selves and to those we love who will survive us. What Matters Most is a reassuring, step-by-step guide to a better future in the midst of grief and loss.” – Katy Butler, New York Times bestselling author of Knocking on Heaven’s Door
“Reynolds took her own unthinkable tragedy and turned it into a rallying cry. In What Matter Most, she is your funny, irreverent friend, who’s here to show you tough love. The time for death denial and keeping your head in the sand is over.” – Caitlin Doughty, New York Times bestselling author of Smoke Gets in Your Eyes and From Here to Eternity
“Grief is a monster better confronted without a legal, financial and logistical mess left behind; Chanel’s wisdom is a gift to all future dead people wanting to lift some of the burden of loss off their surviving loved ones. What Matters Most offers you the chance to consider, and find, those critical answers.” – Rebecca Soffer, coauthor of Modern Loss: Candid Conversation About Grief. Beginners Welcome
A Note from Chanel:
I never wanted to have to write this book. However, when I needed an approachable, no-nonsense guidebook to help me when after husband was killed in an accident I couldn’t find it. So I wrote one—and here we are.
Straight from the book, here is my Note to the Reader:
No, I am not a lawyer, financial planner, or insurance agent. Other than this book, I’m not here to sell you anything, just to tell you what I learned over the last nine years.
Yes, it’s a little embarrassing to share my lowest moments after one of my biggest fears came true, the mistakes I made, and how wrong I got it. However, if it really is the truth that sets us free, here is every inch of it. My hope is that this path becomes a little easier for you if (or when) you find yourself (or someone you love) walking down this road. Besides, if it weren’t all too true, you can bet I would have made myself look much, much better. Struggle isn’t pretty, so we might as well just get honest about it.
And being honest is exactly what getting your shit together means in this book. Serious topics require real-life words and talking like humans. I don’t have my shit together were the actual words I said standing five feet away from my husband, who wasn’t waking up from a coma. Giving all or none of the fucks or swearing up a marketing trend was never the point. I was entirely terrified. That’s all.
In fact, because my memory was, let’s be clear, not exactly reliable on occasion, I triple-checked facts, toured the hospital, and inter-viewed dozens of people who were with me in order to describe as accurately and honestly as I can what really happened. But the only story I’m telling is my own, as I experienced and remember it. Excavating and mapping friends’ memories and asking what the kids re-member revealed that we were often in the same room but completely in our own heads, our brains interpreting wildly different meanings, feeling entirely opposite emotions.
However, what we all remember is, everything really sucked after José died. For a long time. But even during the moments when I felt like I might die, too, I knew that I wanted to live, be happy again, and come out the other end alive and whole. There is hard stuff in here, but you can absolutely get your shit together. You can do this. We all can.
We don’t drown by falling into the water. We drown by staying there.